Bipolar Lesson To Learn From The VA Tech Massacre/Killings

Hi,

I have received a lot people writing me about the
Virginia Tech College Killer who killed 32 people--
Cho Seung-Hui.

If you are out of the US, you should know,
this is a big thing.
If you have no idea what I am talking about check
out cnn.com for more information about this.

People have asked, what I think he has. I don't
know and I am NOT a doctor and don't make diagnoses
but I would bet that he has something like
antisocial personality disorder.

"Crazy" is not a diagnosis. It will be interesting
to hear what he was diagnosed with but I am not sure
myself.

Anyway, there is a big bipolar disorder lesson to be learned
here.

I am going to tell you some harsh reality today.
It's about the mental health system. The system
as I like to call it.

Here's the real deal. This is the deal nobody is
going to tell you but me. The system does
a horrible job of keeping tracking of important
things.

What is the system? The system is everything that
goes along with mental health and your loved one.
It's the doctors, therapists, hospitals, outpatient
programs, other programs, family members, etc.

Here's the problem. If a person has a mental illness
over a long period of time, the system loses important
information. Files are lost. Doctors retire. Therapists
retire. The patient moves and new doctors and therapists
are needed. Along the way, 100% of the information is
NOT and I repeat NOT passed along.

So what happens is eventually some people have some
information but no one person has all the information.

You might be thinking, "What the heck is Dave talking
about...what information?" Information like how
the person is, suicide attempts, patterns of
manipulation, threats that were made against others,
ability to work, things that trigger episodes,
reasons for certain diagnoses, situations with
the police, actual violent acts committed, lies
told, the kind of
therapy that works for them, etc.

You might be wondering, "But doesn't ever patient
have a file?" They are suppose to but what is
suppose to be and what really happens are many
times two different things.

Half the important information that my mom's current
doctor needed was compiled by me David Oliver not
in her file. I have no idea why it was missing
from the file.

Also, remember there is the lazy factor. Many people
in the system are just too darn lazy to write stuff
up. They let it slide. You're not going to believe
this but I have a friend, and I won't tell you
which state, but he is a policeman. He use
to NOT pull over people because he didn't want
to fill out any paperwork. It was easier to just
let people go so he could get home early.

This is very common. Many people don't like paperwork,
and they don't like to answer questions so if
they don't write certain things or if they don't
write anything at all, they, in their own minds,
get less hassle. Sad but true.

Let's look at this example. I have a fairy
good friend who's wife has bipolar disorder. I
have given him 80% of my materials and he hasn't
gone through a thing. Why? Well because it's free
so he devalued it but that's another story
for another day.

I started telling him things he needs to look out
for with his wife. Everything I know about his
wife suggests she is totally out of control.

He screams, yells, takes her medication some time,
drinks, lies, manipulates, etc. etc. etc.

If you ask my friend if she is that bad, he says no.
At first I thought "well maybe she isn't that bad."

But then I got a call from another friend that gave me
the real deal. What his wife was really like. So I asked
him and he said "Well that stuff did happen but well
she isn't that bad."

Here's the stuff that happen to him that he didn't think
was so bad. She attacked him multiple times, she has cut
him where he has bleed, she drinks and then goes into
fits of rage, he has hit him over the head with a keyboard,
she has thrown a Sony Play Station at him, she has told
his kids terrible things, she has lied to relatives about
him, she doesn't always take her medication, etc. etc.

I told my friend this was serious stuff. He said that
he knew but he thinks she will get better. I asked how?
If there is no plan, no strategy, how is she going to
get better.

THEN I ASKED THE MAGIC QUESTION

Does the system know all these things your wife did? He said
"well not really." So the doctor knows NONE and I repeat
NONE of this. Why? Well he covers some of it up and his
wife is really manipulative. She puts on a great show
during doctor visits.

Well, at one point it got so bad that he asked me for some
help. He said he couldn't talk to the doctor because of
the privacy laws, laws which I have at least 7 LEGAL
ways around. So I advised him out to get around the laws,
legally (PLEASE NOTE, I AM NOT AN ATTORNEY AND DON'T OFFER
LEGAL ADVICE).

Finally the doctor learned SOME of what was going on. Guess
what? The police don't know he was cut by her more than once.
Guess what? He doesn't know her history BEFORE he met
her. So right now, there are tons of gaps, of information
because........

NOBODY IS CONNECTING ALL THE DOTS

Again, I know very little about the Virginia Tech Killer,
but I am pretty sure it will come out that this person knew
this, that person knew that, his family knew this, this doctor
knew that, this therapist knew this, this counselor knew this,
his roommates knew this, the police knew this, etc. etc. but
NOBODY connected all the dots.

Here's the lesson for you and read this carefully if you are
a supporter. It's YOUR job to connect the doctors for everyone
because NOBODY is going to do it but you. In my course,
I go into this at length on how to do this and how to connect
the dots fast so you can get it all done in the 15 to 20 minutes
doctors allot for treatment.

Check it out:

SUPPORTING AN ADULT
Visit:
http://www.bipolarsupporter.com/report11

SUPPORTING A CHILD/TEEN
Visit:
http://www.bipolarparenting.com/

HAVE BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.survivebipolar.net/

Well I have to run, catch you tomorrow.

Your Friend,

Dave

P.S. Check out my F.ree blog with copies of emails
that I have sent in the past and lots of great
information for you:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/supporterblog/

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