Has David Oliver Misled You About His' Mom's Bipolar?

Hi,

I have some really bad news for me. Good news for
you. Here's the deal. Over the last 10 days or so
my mom has increasing NOT been doing well.

I haven't said anything because I like to
see how it goes before I make any determinations
as to what course of action I am going to take.

This is bad news for me. The good news is
I am going to try to explain what I did
to help her so you don't have to learn the
hard way.

Over the last few days I have gotten a lot
of "That's great your mom is doing great"
emails. I was thinking that maybe people
don't know the entire situation.

Bipolar disorder is a life long thing. My mom
WAS doing great up until 10 days ago. But
something has changed. The thing is, you just
never know what can happen. She can be doing
great and then something happens. So
I don't want to mislead you into thinking
there are never, every any problems.

The system I have setup handles most of
the problems but things are not perfect. A
year ago we had a situation. 6 months ago
we had a situation. Then since it's a mood
disorder, my mom's moods change quickly
so I have to deal with that.

Do NOT think for a second that everything, on
every day is perfect because it's not. I want
to be 100% honest with you.

When I started these sites, I wanted to bring
how to information and positive material not
just negative stories you can read in the news.

I have courses/systems here that focus on people
who do well:

SUPPORTING AN ADULT
Visit:
http://www.bipolarsupporter.com/report11

SUPPORTING A CHILD/TEEN
Visit:
http://www.bipolarparenting.com

HAVE BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.survivebipolar.net

I think in doing so I may have unintentionally
caused you to think that everything is perfect
all the time with my mom.

Currently, I can't even describe what's going
on with my mom but it's a growing problem. BUT,
she is NOT exhibiting traditional signs she
normally exhibited in the past. This makes
it really complicated.

Meaning, there is no screaming, no yelling,
no cooking random food, no spending money,
etc. All the stuff you can read in my story
that was in her last big episode.

It's VERY strange. I don't know if it's
an episode or something else. I have never considered
something like this happening.

What happen? Well I can't get into it because
I have to prepare to talk to her doctor, therapist,
and employment specialist today. It's VERY complicated
to explain. I am going to be making charts, diagrams
and stuff for the doctor and therapist.

If you think you couldn?t do this, it's going to be
on paper. I have no idea how to use any kind of graphics
program. I draw about as good at as a 7th grader.

So anyone could do what I am going to be doing to
get my point across to the right people.

Basically, a part of my system caught that there
was a problem. Her doctor was alerted. Keep in
mind her doctor 2 weeks or so ago, said she was
doing absolutely positively great and wanted to
see her in two months.

NOW before you get mad at her doctor. It's not
her fault. Anyway, her doctor was alerted about
the situation. She responded and is bringing
my mom in early before 2 months.

It all kind of got worse really fast so it's
been hard for me to keep up.

Today I have to investigate from a to z. I am
going to be talking to 3 people that help her.

Now, I have to be prepared for the following. And
this is important for you to realize. When I
call these people, I will be ready for all
possibilities:

them helpful treating me nice
them hostile not treating me nice
them saying I can't talk to them
them saying they won't talk to me


You might think, "Dave, why wouldn?t they talk
to you?" Well that's part of the problem with
my mom BUT it's hard to explain. On the other hand,
they may say they lost the talking release form
so I can't speak
to them. I am not saying they will but they
may and I will be prepared.

Normally people hope for the best and plan
for the best which makes no sense. I hope
for the best and plan for a major disaster.

I model all the disasters and what I would
do and how the system would help me.

Last night I was talking to my dad. He is REALLY
REALLY worried. When this happens he thinks it's
going to go back to 2 years ago.

I assured him that this was IMPOSSIBLE. There is
NO way that can happen. There is NO way the current
system would allow for it.

He said he believes me but I know in the back of his
mind he is really worried.

He said some rather interesting things to me. He
had a message for you as well.

He was telling me how he's been married to my mom
for 41 years. For 39 years he was run over by my
mom's bipolar disorder. He said he practiced
appeasement and it didn't work.

He told me a few stories and I must say, they
were disturbing. Stories from 35 and 38 years ago.

Stories of how right after they first got married
my mom went into an episode and he didn't even know
she had bipolar disorder or what was wrong.

I must say, I can't imagine dealing with someone's
bipolar disorder when there was no internet, no support
groups, no courses/systems like mine, no good books,
very few doctors, very few medications, very few
therapists, etc.

Imagine that? People complain on my list that there's
nothing to help. How about 35 years ago?

It must have been a TOTAL nightmare. My dad told me
to tell you and I quote: "Tell your people on
your thing, they are lucky to have something
that tells them what to do or how to do it. I never
had that....Maybe I made a mistake and could have
done more research but I will tell you, 30 years
ago, there was no information. I tried to research
but there wasn't anything. It was during that time
that I kind of gave up trying to beat the bipolar
disorder. It beat me."

FYI: My dad calls my newsletter list "that thing."

Anyway, it was kind of sad. It's almost like the policy
of appeasement which was a contributor to World
War 2.

The Policy of Appeasement was the attitude, strategy, and
thinking Britain and France took against Germany before
World War 2 started. It's the willingness to give
in to aggressive powers no matter what they wanted.

Over the years, my dad almost always gave into my mom's
bipolar disorder episodes.

When I stepped in in 2004 and 2005, I redefined a new
strategy. I told my dad if I was going to help, there
was going to be a new strategy, policy and philosophy
and his had failed. He agreed.

The rest is history. Well I have to run and get ready
to go to my various "battles" for the day. In addition
to running my other businesses, working out, volunteering,
etc.

I also have a war with my printer. And another one. I am
currently engaged in 3 wars with three different things
all at the same time. Think I will lose?

I have a complete strategy for all of them. I must
admit, my resources are being really taxed.

I will win. I am 100% certain of it.

People wonder why I talk so much about wars, history,
battles, etc. If you haven't already noticed, this is
a war with many battles along the way. You are fighting
a war against bipolar disorder NOT your loved one. A
war that must be won.

Some days you lose the battle but in the long run,
you have to win the war. Battles make wars. To many
battle lost lead to losing the war. Make sense?

I have to run.

I will keep you posted on my mom. Have a great day.




Your Friend,

Dave

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