Bipolar Lesson: Warning! This isn't like Burger King

Hi,

I haven't been to Burger King in years but I have a
friend that goes all the time. He loves Burger King.

I must say as a side note, I think those new Burger
King Commercials with the "Burger King", which is a
person, running through football stadiums is REALLY funny.

If you are out of the US, Burger King is a place that
sells Burgers which are pieces of meat on bread. (Hey
don't laugh, we have international people in over 140
countries so I want to make sure every "gets it".)

Anyway, I asked my friend why he loves Burger King
so much. He said, "Have It Your Way"(R) dude. As
you probably know, several of my friends that powerlift,
compete in strongman competitions and body build use the
word "dude."

I asked what's so special about Burger King? He explained
that you can customize your meal at Burger King.
Then I got to thinking about some comments I get from readers.

NOTE-Now I know I am going to get people who write me and
say that I own stock in Burger King or that I own Burger King
or that I am trying to trick you into getting Burgers at Burger
King for I can secretly make money. I am using this to
illustrate a point so if you are thinking this relay.
Want to complain write: dave-will-not-respond@bipolarcentral.com

Well let's take a look at some reader comments and then get
to the Bipolar Lesson.

Okay, first, I have around 80,000 people on all my lists. I get
up to 1000 emails some days. The average is in the 700s.
I try to read them all. There is no way that I can respond
to each and every one. Frankly I wouldn't want to. Why?
Well I wouldn't want to spend all day typing at my computer
then go to sleep and start over again and not do anything else
other than answer people's emails.

Some people don't seem to understand this so that's why I a
writing it now. With that said, let's take a look at some
emails that I get and the lessons you can learn:

Take a look at this:

"I understand that but I have to be sure you are not a con sorry Working on e-mail is not enough evidence for me Send me your books I will pay cash on deliver Kind regards"
--Julie

DAVID OLIVER:
Okay first, if you can't tell that I am not a con, than I don't know
what to tell you. I mean I would have to be the dumbest person on
the face of the earth to run a "con" in mental health where I get
bombarded with emails, questions and actually have to do a TON
of work.

But the key part that I see here is this. "Send me your books and I
will pay cash on deliver." I am assuming Julie is referring to
COD or cash on delivery. I have heard of that in the United States
but I have NO idea how to do it and I have NO desire to learn
how to do it. I have no need to complicate anything any more.

Finally, Julie is in Australia. Can you imagine sending stuff
to another country and getting the cash on delivery? Good luck.

Also, who says that I would even do this in the first place?
Her statement assumes that I would do it, which I will not.

So the bottom line is, this request will not be fulfilled.

I believe that someone people look at my courses/systems:

SUPPORTING AN ADULT?
http://www.bipolarsupporter.com/report11

SUPPORTING A CHILD?
http://www.bipolarparenting.com

HAVE BIPOLAR DISORDER
http://www.survivebipolar.net


And they think I am desperate to make sales. I am NOT. It's not
going to hurt me if you don't get the information to help you
or your loved one. Hey my mom's doing great. I am really
offering my information to help others.

Now look at this next email:

"STOP! Why are you sending me sooooo many emails. Take me off
your list immediately!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! UNLESS
you can send me emails only on Saturdays and Sundays"
-Steve

First, Steve, I put a lot of time and energy into these emails.
For all of those that think that I simply hire someone to do it,
you are fooling yourself. Who in the world could you hire to
write these things? And I write them EVERY day. Imagine YOU
had to get up and spend an hour writing an email to help
people.

So Steve is mad that I am sending a f.ree email that he
doesn't pay for, that I pay for, that he can save and file
and read later? Make sense? Of course it doesn't.

Second point, If you don't want to be on my list, you can
click the remove link at the bottom of EVERY single message
that comes from me. Don't be lazy. I mean come on. I offer
a f.ree service that I spend a ton of time and money
putting together and then you complain.

Finally I love when he asks if I can send only on Saturdays
and Sundays. Hey, let me spend $50,000 reconfiguring the
the email server just for you :)

Look at this email:

"Dave, how are you? I loooooove your emails they are
so helpful and great. You help so much. Why can't you
send more information faster? Can you send me more emails
or put everything in one big email. I don't have time
to wait. I am helping my sister and need all the information
I can gett right awayy. Why are you holding back and sending
so slowly?"
-Karen

Isn't it funny how one person thinks I send way to much and
Karen thinks that I am holding back. Actually I like Karen. She's
a nice person. I explained that I have to have a balance and
I don't want to flood people with too much to have to print
off in one day. She understood.

Here's the big lesson. For some strange reason, when it comes
to bipolar disorder so many people just don't take it seriously.

People would never treat other illnesses like let's say Cancer like
this. I have spoken to people that have all these conditions in
regards to treatment. They want to have it their way, like at
Burger King. Well it doesn't work that way.

Just the other day I was on the phone with someone who told me they
really wanted to help their loved one and would do anything BUT
he related to me:

-I can't go with them to see the doctor Monday through Friday

-I don't want them to take medications only natural things long
term.

-I don't want to pay more than $150 a session for a doctor for my loved
one.

-I can only afford $75 a session for a therapist for my loved one.

-We live in a small town and I don't want to drive more than 45 minutes
to the doctor

-I have to get someone who takes our insurance but a lot of people don't
take our insurance

-I don't have the time to you use your doctor finding system right now, can you just tell me doctors that I should contact? (NOTE this defeats the entire doctor finding system in my courses/systems)

And he had a few other things that had to be his way.

I was amazed and then told the person to get into the real world. He
wants his loved one to be successful BUT wants it HIS way. Come on.

People like this fail. That's the bottom line. So the big lesson
is, you aren't' going to have it your way. This isn't Burger King.
You have to do everything you can to help yourself or your
loved one and don't be a pain that wants it their way.

Make sense?

SHAME ON ME

Yesterday I told you how I setup my F.R.E.E
podcast or audio presentation and didn't send you the link. Sorry.
Here it is:
http://bipolarcentral.libsyn.com


Your Friend,


Dave

P.S. In D.ebt from bipolar disorder? Visit: http://www.bipolarcentral.com/debtletter/
P.S.S. My attorney says I have to tell you: "Have It Your Way"(R) is a registered trade mark of Burger King(R). I don't want to make him mad :).