Broken record

One of the things I have learned is To be a broken record disengaged to emotional situations. My son whom I love dearly knows how to play me. However being the broken record of what is expected and how he is to conduct himself is working with me. Example. He is not complying to the rules and is yelling at me : you suck, I hate you. You want me to suffer. I tell him he is angry and I love him too much to argue. My sons response " no you don't". I reply you are just angry right now, and you want to argue, you have 5 mins, to argue ) at this time you say nothing put the timer on or just keep tract) when the time is up redirect them to the consequences they have earned but praise them if theycomplyed with your request ( this takes time). I will repete my self over and over but will not give in. If he wants to make poor choices then he will suffer technique's for his actions ( this is sooooooooooo hard but you and your child will get through this with open communications of feelings to the extent that you kept in mind they are the child with special needs and you are the parent trying to help make the right desision. This is a hard step because you do don't want to hear. "you suck, I hate you". I can't speak for all families but the vast majority the reason they say this is because they are mad, they love you and it is hard to put aside but you have to. Your children are learning just as we did as kids

All kid need a little repition in their lives but disengage in arguing because, when you argue with your child they are given the upper hand they have you where they want you, make you feel guilty or wore down, reveres this action. Tell them they can have time in their room and not like it, but every time they say or do something negative the time starts over. Please ask questions if this is too vague, I have done this and finally I am making progress the work involved is long and hard and needs support, I just don't want to be extraneous if all of you have tried broken record, not giving in and will not argue tactics.

If you would like to share techniques on how you have handled hard situations feel free to share we are all trying to do what is best for our families and children involved, I believe as parents we can all learn from each other and grow as well as advocating to help our children.

My prayers are with you all

Stacey A.