Monday's are alsways the same
I don't know what it is about Mondays, but when ever they come around, my son has a hard time adjusting to catching his bus for his treatment program. Most other days he does well. So instead of the same consequence as in no internet and phone time. I am going to be a little more creative.
So far my son said the reason he missed his bus this time was because he fell asleep. ( The other times were " I didn't hear the bus, When the bus came I was in the bathroom, I didn't hear the phone ring, They only honked once and sped off") So bed time will be 10pm lights out, but before that I am going to have him look up the word responsiblity and actions. Then make him write a paper on how those words pertain today. Not saying he will do this willingly, but if he wants phone privledges and internet time, the paper will be done, but bed time at 10 will stand.
The nice thing is he understand manipulation mcuh better since his one of the treatment staff memebers did a group on it and made the kids write a paper on how they used manipulation for what they wanted. so why not try this at home.
I know this weekend was what I call special as in needy and demanding. I was happy to get the break I needed. For two hours I actually was able to watch TV. Nothing was on of course, but hey I can flip through the channels like any guy can. It was nice.
So again, as a parent that too gets overwhelmed, take what ever down time, free time that is given to you. Don't feel guilty, trust me it is well deserved. Plus you and your children will have a b etter relationship and your communication will increase. Why? Because you have had a chance to regroup and appreciate the situations or conversations much easier. For me when I have had, two hour or even three hours and my son gets home from school or treatment when I have had time to regroup I am more consentrated on what he is telling me and I don't freak out over what he may have done. I have learned to be calm and silently explode ( sometimes I draw cartoons of the issues to take out fustrations it helps)
Any way all you hard working parents hang in there. Everything takes time, there is always a solution when you brain storm, and have had a time to breath. ( even 10 mins counts)
2 Comments:
hi i just happened by ur blog and found it very interesting . my daughter is bipolar and has been since she was diaganosed at the tender age of 12 she was always hard to handle never liked being told what to do and still doesn't we now raise her daughter who is 3 we have had custody of the baby since she was born you see my own daughter is a danger to herself and others more often than not. she gets her meds adjusted all the time and she just seems to get worse its hard trying to find people to talk to who know what you are going through and it's scarey not knowing where she will end up
I am so sorry to hear that your daughter is on the edge. Finding the right medications is important, as well as the right therapist or treatment program.
Is you daughter of majority age? Because there are programs you can place her in if she is a danger to herself and others. I am so sorry you have gone through such heartache. Your grandchild is very fornutate to have a grandmother who cares. You are a couragous person and I know times can be tough. Keep strong, and you are welcome to talk to me any time.
I agree it is hard finding people to talk to that know what you ar going through. Many people have such uneducated opinions, when they don't understand bipolar disorder.Take Care
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