Still working things out.

My son started out good this morning, was up at 6:30am. I asked him why he was up so early and he told me that he was practicing for summer school. I didn't believe him because I knew he was up to something. He has been polite all day and following his check list minus the household choirs. So what happens?

My son misses his bus for dat treatment. He did have an ulterior motive, he wanted to stay on the internet and go swimming. That is a big no. I told my son that since he missed his bus for treatment that he would now have to resort to his household choirs and if he was finished them he could do things that were on his free time list.

This at first went over like toxic waste, but after explaining to him (over the phone while at work) what his consequences would be if he didn't follow the rules. So at fist my son starting yelling at me telling me how unfair I was being. So I said " Good then you get the point of real life." his response was " This sucks". I responded, " you choose to miss your bus, and now you must accept the rules you need to follow. No one said you needed to be overjoyed with choirs, but you need to accept them and stop yelling.

My son stopped yelling and said I was overwhelming him and he needed to calm down. Which is fine, my boyfriend was home with him right now anyway so I know he is in good hands. He (my boyfriend)maybe a little frazzled when I get home, but then it will be my turn to tag him out for awhile for him to regroup. It is soooo imporant to take a parent time out, you think so much clearer and you are less emotional over the sistuation. When I didn't have anyone to help me I tried to keep my sense of humor, and think is this situation really that bad or is there something I can make my self smile about. AT time no but with practice I have learned that it helps elevate the pressure. When IT was just me and my son ( I was alone taking care of him for over 9 years) and I was feeling overwhelmed with the different fits or distraction, once he was calm and able to entertain himself, I did something that was relaxing to me. Sometimes it was venting to a friend other times it was drawing, singing, dancing in the living room. Or blowing up small balloons and popping them when my son was outside playing. Sound silly but it worked for me

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