Weekends are Tough
Since this is the first week of school being out, my son has been rapid cycling. Saturday was tough, I have to limit his computer and video game playing because he can soooo addicted that it becomes his realty. Saturday I had a class I volunteered to teach for computer basics, my son was extremely against this and didn't want to go. He volunteered with me so, I told him to bad so sad you are going.
He got into the car, and started swearing and them kicking the back seat. I was getting very angry, so I yelled " knock it off" and he said " I don't see why I have to go." I said "because you volunteered and when you make a promise you need to keep it, besides it is only for an hour and a half." He went on to complaining how it was cutting into his internet playing, and I told him I understood he wants to play a game, but there are other things in life besides games. So what does my son do, he again kicks the seat and yells "This sucks" I told him what a great job he did expressing his feelings, but I told him if he kicks the seat one more time not only will he not go to the library today but he will be grounded from the phone for violent behavior and I would let his therapist know. He didn't like that and was quiet for the rest of the ride.
Not even going to go into about the class, just wont ever do it again. The kids had a great time learning, I was just drained. My son did well until he got to the car, that is when he started in again. So I told him if he would quite demanding, whining and swearing, turn his act around to positive, then I would entertain the idea, however keep up the negative behavior and he will go to grandma's house and will be on poop duty. ( My mom has three small dogs and he would have to pick you there left behinds) any way he choose positive behaviors.
Sunday, I had to work and he wanted to go with, which was fine, I let him play on the internet while I was working, when It was time to get off which I said to him in 5 mins you will need to log out and shut down, all of the sudden he burst into tear, sobbing as if he was hurt. I asked him why are you crying? He yells " You tell me!!" I said " I have no idea why, what is wrong? He then responds that every time he has to get off the computer he starts to win. I told him that he could save and play another day, again out of control crying, so I walked away gave him about 10 mins and then again, asked him to get off the computer which he did. I said are you feeling better now, and he starts laughing and said yes, I don't know what came over me, I was just really sad."
So most of Sunday was this type of issue, he is cycling, and doesn't know what to do when in a crying fit. The game Mad Libbs helped a little and so did going for a small walk. Not sure how he is doing this morning left early so I could go to work and get some things done I needed to. My nephew wanted to spend the weekend with us, but for some reason in my family they all seem to cycle at the same time, my mom was having her issues on Friday night, left me sisters to deal with that, my son has been off and on as well as my nephew and all of them together would be overwhelming, since they have a hard time getting along.
One thing is for sure there is never a dull moment.
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2 Comments:
Oh I know what you mean about weekends being tough....and now that school is out for the summer - it is going to be rough. The first week my son was off of school was just terrible. Fighting with his brother, mad at the dog, crying over everything, stomping, slamming doors, screaming, I just dread to think what the neighbors think of us!
As for the computer games, my son is the same way. We have to limit his time and when it is time for him get off, he says the same thing about just starting to win.
Thanks for your posts, Stacy, I sure look forward to reading them every day. I can't help but laugh sometimes at the things your son does as it sounds so similar to my son (even though he is only 7). It also makes me feel sad for these kids that have so much to deal with at such a young age.
Yes it is sad, and the only thing we can give to them as parents is love, understanding, and teaching the coping skills necessary in helping them to someday be adult. Plus making sure they know we will never give up on them even when they do.
My son's emotional maturity is on the 10 year old side, where Academically he is on college level.
Your welcome, and again it is great to have other parents experiancing the same things. It makes it easier knowing you are not alone.
Since school is out I am trying to find classes for my son to attend to keep him busy. Not sure how it will go yet.
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