A start of a melt down

I have only been at work for an hour and the teacher calls. I know it is very rarely a good thing when a teacher has to call. She informs me that my son is in rare form this morning. I told her that is why I called her this morning to warn her that he was going to be special but not in a pleasant way. She responded with " I know, I just didn't expect him to be this defiant. " My little angel was disrupting the class by mocking the teacher, telling the class that the teacher could count, and instead of calling her by her given last name, he chose dude and hommey. Plus he was refusing to do any of his homework. The teacher said every time she told him to do something he would refuse direction and did what he wanted to do. In his second hour class he was being as disrespectful to the next teacher, and had to give him a referral. She did the right thing, I reassured her because he was in the wrong and making poor choices with his behavior.

The teacher put my son on the phone, in which my son was not please, I asked him "why are you choosing to demonstrations negative behaviors?" His response "because I don't want to be here mom." So I go into my small speaks of how we all have to do things we don't want to do.
He isn't listening. So I ask him if he is trying to earn extra time at his daytreatment program, of course he said no. I told him if he continued to disregard the rules and continued to make poor choices then he was most defiantly earning more time at his program. He asked why mom? As if he had no idea his behaviors were incorrect. I clenched my teeth and explained to him in no uncertain terms what his consequence were going to be and why and listed out what his behaviors were. He then said, so. Then I pulled the card grounded card, and said okay if you feel you are not able to make better choices not only will you be grounded but I will your step dad go up to the school and babysit you in each class. He didn't like that option apparently and hung the phone up on me. I was so mad.

I called my son's therapist and explained to her what was occurring, She is to speak with him tonight in his treatment program. She also like the plan of my boyfriend going up to the school to babysit my son in each class. (However my boyfriend is less than thrilled and very put out that my son needs the extra intervention today, since he his trying to find a job). I explained to my boyfriend that if I could get the time off of work today to go and sit with my son all day I would and though I thanked him for helping me out, and gave him many kudos, he is still angry that I volunteered that idea. I told him that our son needs to see that we mean business and if he is not thinking logical right now and is having an episode then he needs to have him there. My boyfriend asked how I was sure that our son wasn't thinking logical, so I told him that in the conversation our son stated he didn't need an education, he could go right now and get a job that paid him $30,000 a year and wouldn't have to work every day. (we laughed at that one but not to our son) and he also said that he would walk from school to either my work or home, which is about 7 miles.

I am hoping that my son can continue the rest of the day by behaving, and that my boyfriend will not be so mad at me later. I also hope that this is not the start of a melt down that ends with hospital.

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