Frequently Asked Questions
Below are questions that I get asked most often. In hopes of decreasing
the amount of emails I have to personally respond to daily, I created this
page. Please see if the question you have is already answered here. If you
do not find the answer to your question here, then send me an email and I
will be sure to answer your question and add it here in case others have
similar question. So if you've sent me your story or information on
your particular situation, again I may not respond back to you because the
answer you seek will either be found on this page or in one of my course.
Otherwise, I will respond back to you so please do not feel hurt or
rejected if I do not reply back to your particular situation.
How
do I remove myself from a list of yours?
I can't view/open a website of yours.
How can I change the email address you send messages to?"
I have a suggestion for your site or would like to report a
bad link. What should I do?
My loved one won't take his/her medicine.
What should I
do?
My loved one refuses to acknowledge he/she is bipolar and
won't go to the doctor and/or the hospital.
My
loved one has threatened suicide, what should I do?
My
loved one gets violent when he/she gets into a manic episode.
What medicine is
your mother on?
What
do you think about the medicine your mother is on?
My
loved one is terrible without his/her medication. He/she has
threatened to kill me if I leave him/her. Please help me.
Can
you recommend any support groups?
Why are you
selling your information?
Why don't you
give it away for free?
I've
signed up for your mini course. Why are you stringing me along with
the information?
Why
are you taking advantage of people's misfortune?
What's
your feeling on natural remedies for bipolar?
Are you for real?
I
bet you make a ton of money doing this. Do you?
Is this a scam?
Do you offer
consulting?
Why
won't you talk to people in depth before they get any of your
courses?
How long
are you going to keep doing this?
My
loved one doesn't think he/she has a problem and won't get
help.
How
do I remove myself from a list of yours?
If you want to unsubscribe, next time you get a message,
scroll down to the bottom of the message you received and you will see
something like this:
To unsubscribe or change subscriber options visit: http://www.aweber.com/z/r/?TIwsTEystCwMjKzsHOwc
Once you click on that link, you will see a screen that looks like
this (with your information of course):
I can't view/open a website of yours.
The sites work fine. You may be having a problem with your ISP. If you are
new to computers, please ask a local friend or family member to help.
How can I change the email address you send messages
to?
If you want to change your email address, next time you get a message,
scroll down to the bottom of the message you received and you will see
something like this:
To unsubscribe or change subscriber options visit: http://www.aweber.com/z/r/?TIwsTEystCwMjKzsHOwc
Once you click on that link, you will see a screen that looks like
this (with your information of course):
If you click on the "change details" link in the top
right, you will then see a screen that looks like this:
I have a suggestion for your site or would like to report a
bad link. What should I do?
I greatly appreciate any and all suggestions. So if you have a suggestion
or comment, or would like to report a bad link, please email me at doliver72@usa.net.
I thank you in advance.
My loved one won't take his/her medicine.
What should I do?
This is a very complicated question. I devote a large part of my course on
this issue. For more information, visit:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/supporterreport
My loved one refuses to acknowledge he/she is bipolar and
won't go to the doctor and/or the hospital.
This is a good question and takes a lot of explaining. In my course at
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/supporterreport
I spend a considerable amount of time on this topic. Don't let anyone fool
you into thinking there are magic words you can say or some kind of easy
solutions. There isn't but there are a lot of things you can do. I outline
all of them in my course.
My loved one has threatened suicide, what should I
do?
You should talk to their doctor and therapist immediately. If a person
threatens themselves or another, they can be committed or brought in the
hospital. You should call their doctor, therapist, local hospital social
worker and the mental health department in your area. Let all these people
know what is going on so they can do something. Also, you can call this
number for help for suicide related issues. 1.800.SUICIDE (784-2433) or
visit http://www.hopeline.com
My loved one gets violent when he/she gets into a manic
episode.
If a person uses violence against you, you need to contact the police
(make sure you tell the police mental illness is involved so they don't
shoot the individual). Also, call your local hospital or mental health
department (check in the yellow pages or ask the hospital social worker),
and they can come out and bring your loved one into the hospital or help
you in a number of other ways.
What medicine is your mother
on?
I don't talk about my mother's prescription medicine because each person
is different and my mother's medicine may or may not be the best for you.
It best to find a good doctor and follow his/her advice. In my courses, I
have information on how to find a good doctor.
What do you think about the medicine your mother is
on?
I don't have any real comments on any drugs and medications because I am
not a doctor. I believe in finding a good doctor and listening to what
he/she says and having him/her "tweak" or modify the medicine in
such a way to stability is created.
My loved one is terrible without his/her
medication. He/she
has threatened to kill me if I leave him/her. Please help me.
This is obviously a tough situation. I have never had such a problem. I
think the best thing to do is work towards getting your loved one to the
hospital or a doctor AND at the same time you should also be to a domestic
violence support organizations so they can help you plan an exit strategy
from the relationship without any danger coming to you. Please visit http://www.ndvh.org
or call 1-800-799-7233 for help.
These people can help you make a plan if your loved one refuses to get
help and abuses you. My last words on this is, if they don't get help the
situation will not get better and you have a right to leave no matter what
you think about the "for better or worse part of the marital
vows". Marital vows don't say stay with someone who can get help but
refuses to and get abused.
Can you recommend any support
groups?
I don't recommend support groups. I don't have information on which
support groups are good or bad. But you can read my article on support
groups, how to find them for yourself and things you should be aware of
under the "articles" part of the website.
Why are you selling your
information?
Because I have to. If I don't sell it, I won't be able to afford to offer
it. There are costs involved like setting up and hosting a website,
driving traffic to it, making the course, shipping it out, etc.
Why don't you give it away for
free?
I would go broke. What kind of sense would it make for me to go into debt
or go broke mailing out free courses?
I've signed up for your mini course. Why are you stringing me
along with the information?
I get this one every now and then. Some people think that NOT overwhelming
someone with a massive amount of information is "stringing" them
along. The interesting thing is, when I had all the information upfront in
a few days, people started writing me angry emails saying "Why are
you bombarding me with all this information. I can't absorb it. Please
stop emailing me."
So I decided that 90% of the people on the list, if not more, didn't
know a lot about bipolar. So I stretched the information out for a longer
period of time so people could get it in bite size. And, at any time,
people have the option to get all the information right away by getting my
course.
Why are you taking advantage of people's
misfortune?
I'm not. If you are bipolar or supporting someone who is, you have to
start getting serious and not treating it like a joke or hobby. Stop
worrying about spending money on educating yourself and start doing it. If
you have to buy things to help yourself or your loved one, then do it.
Don't cheat yourself out of educating yourself about your or your love
one's illness. This goes for my course and anything else you might find.
What's your feeling on natural remedies for
bipolar?
I would stay away from them. I believe in finding a great doctor who will
prescribe one or more of the various medications to help stabilize a
person. Keep in mind, in my day job I sell nutritional supplements but I
would NEVER tell someone with bipolar to try to find natural herbs to help
them over medicine. I have NEVER heard of one case where a person became
stable through natural herbs or stayed stable without medicine through
natural herbs.
I can't stress it enough. Find a great doctor. Take the medication
he/she recommends and NEVER get off the medicine to switch to something
natural. It could be a real disaster. And one last thing if you want to
take supplements to improve and maintain good health, make sure you check
with your doctor first and run everything by him/her.
Are you for
real?
Yes I am. Keep in mind, what author answers questions personally and even
includes his phone number to call?
I bet you make a ton of money doing
this. Do you?
I don't. There are MANY costs associated with all of this. Not to mention
I get about 147 emails a week to answer personally. I get about 21 phone
calls a week as well.
Is this a scam?
No if you look at my story and know anything at all about bipolar and
depression, you would know, it would be hard to make these things up. This
is not a scam and this is a serious situation that I have gone through.
Do you offer
consulting?
Yes I do. But it's NOT for medical related questions. Click here
for more information.
Why won't you talk to people in depth before they get any of your
courses?
Because 99.9% of the things that they want to talk about is covered in one
of my courses. Plus, it's much easier to talk to people after they've gone
through my course as opposed to talking for an hour over the phone. I have
found that when I spend up to 2 hours on the phone with someone, they
retain little to none of the information I tell them anyway. You need to
get the audio tapes and written materials and review them to absorb the
information, just like the way it works at school. That's why I sell a
course, not just any old book.
How long are you going to keep doing
this?
I'm not sure. It's a whole lot of work and I'm not making a million a
year. I like the fact I have helped many people but every now and then a
person annoys me with a comment like "why can't you send this course
for free" or a comment about me making this all up or something about
me taking advantage of people's misfortune. Although this is 3 people a
month, it really annoys me.
I understand that 95% of these people are mad because of their
situation but it still annoys me and when I see messages like that I
sometimes feel like taking down the entire website and system and letting
people fend for themselves.
I have setup this site to kind of run on it's own in the future and
provide a ton of information for people.
My loved one doesn't think he/she has a problem and won't get
help.
There are many strategies you can try to employ. My Bipolar Supporters
Course covers this in detail. You have to look at it this way; there are
many strategies to try to get someone to help. You try them one by one
until you find the one that works. If you don't find one that works, use
the free consultation in the course and we will make a plan together.
You might say that this is a copout on my part but the truth of the
matter is there is NO single universal strategy for this situation that
works for everyone.
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