Hey, y’all –
For some reason, I feel a little stressed today. Maybe it’s the weather — I’m trying to work, while thunderstorms keep interrupting my computer time. Maybe it’s the fact that the storms are giving me a migraine, which is also interrupting my work. I don’t know.
Sometimes I think I expect myself to be perfect, you know? I know the work will wait, but I still want to do it when I want to do it. The weather is going to do what the weather is going to do, and I can’t control it. And getting stressed about it is not going to do me or my bipolar disorder any good at all, and I should know better.
But sometimes we let little things get to us anyway, don’t we? Things that are out of our control?
Yeah, like other people. We can never get them to act the way we would like them to act. If only they would, life would be a lot simpler, wouldn’t it? LOL
It’s all about not having control over anything but ourselves. We can’t control our lives, what happens to us, situations, people, places, and things — no matter how much we would like to.
Someone once said, “Life is 1% what happens to us, and 99% our reaction to it.”
Well, sometimes I don’t even think I can control my reaction to things!
It’s like my bipolar disorder takes over, and either stress or my emotions are just out of control! Then they do their own thing, and usually get me in trouble.
I think if I could control my stress, I could control my emotions (or is it the other way around?). Maybe I just need to find creative ways to control my stress.
I have a girlfriend who uses coloring to control her stress. Yeah, the coloring we used to do when we were kids! And this works for her. Maybe I should try it — I used to love to color.
She says that it helps her to stay focused and to concentrate, that it lowers her stress levels, and to be creative at the same time. Hmm… all the things that I need to do.
Maybe I should put it in my “bipolar toolbox” of things I use to control my bipolar disorder and keep it managed.
Someone else told me that having a pet is a good idea to control stress. Now, that idea I like. I have a dog, Princess. She is the sweetest thing in the world, and she loves me unconditionally.
I could leave the house for 5 minutes to walk up the road to check the mail, and when I come back, she acts like I’ve been gone forever, and is all over me! LOL It’s great to have that kind of love. I mean, I am very blessed to have a wonderful husband who loves me as much as he does, but he doesn’t fall all over me quite like Princess does at the very sight of me!
I know this might seem like nothing, but when I’m stressed, sometimes just stroking her, petting her, calms me down. Maybe it’s just the unconscious action, the repetitive action, that has a way of de-stressing me, I don’t know. Either way, it works.
Sometimes, I watch old movies. I LOVE to watch old movies! Back then, they didn’t have the problems that we do today. Imagine, no bipolar disorder to contend with! No stigma! No tons of bottles of pills to have to take! I love Fred Astaire movies — I love to watch him dance, and I just get lost in the movie, and forget about my problems. That definitely gets my stress levels down.
Oh, and I do crossword puzzles, too. It helps me to focus and concentrate on something other than myself. It also gives me a sense of accomplishment when I finish them. Of course, I do the easy ones — no New York Times in ink ones for me, that would frustrate me and make me even more stressed out!
I wonder if anyone else has other suggestions of any other ways to handle stress? I’d love to know them.
Wishing you peace and stability,
Remember God loves you and so do I,
Michele
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Just wanted to say I enjoy all your articles. I’m BP-1 and they do help. And frankly, there seems to be a growing volume of really badly researched and written articles out there on this and many other subjects.
And so you know, I always absolutely love to see your signature:
“Remember God loves you and so do I”
Thanks.
Martin –
Thank you so much for your comment. It’s good to get positive feedback. Especially on my signature, because I always want people to know that they are not alone.
I’m glad I could help you.
Michele
Let’s see….. Well, I love to leave the kids home with Daddy while I go run errands. Something about not having to yell at the kids every 5 seconds to put their hands on the cart and not on the aisle stuff is very de-stressing. It’s some of the greatest “me” time ever.
Or hot showers that last until the hot water is turning cold. Just sitting there on the floor of the shower, nice and warm, where nobody can bother me and I don’t have to do anything is so nice! (I know I should conserve water, but sometimes a girl’s gotta do what she’s gotta do!)
And I stop and hug my husband. His arms are long and totally wrap me up, no small feat since I am a definite plus sized, and for that one moment I am calm. He supports me no matter what craziness I have myself in that got me stressed in the first place, and he laughs and reminds me that it’s not really that important after all.
I wishn I had some suggestions for you but stress is something I do not handle very well at all. I have tried the coloring thing but it don’t work to well for me.
I am sorry to her in your last post that you may have diabetes. Most of the anti-psychotic drugs can and usually will raise your sugar level. Abilify, seroquel, and depokote can cause diabetes. I am sure there are others but I have only heard of these three for a fact. I am praying that your test come back negative. Trying to manage diabetes and bipolar together is not an easy task. It is a challenge I deal with every day. Your in my prayers.
Your friend
Melissa
I just stumbled on to your website. Thanks! I don’t know anyone else dealing with BP to talk with… sometimes I think I’m crazy. It’s nice to know how others feel.
Stress reliever? I know it sounds more stressful than most people want, but I love jigsaw puzzles. Not those impossibe, kill-you-off kinds; instead, cute 500 piece ones with obvious designs to them. I get totally lost in them and for at least the time it takes to put them together, I feel contentment. If I can’t put my life together as I want, at least I feel accomplished with a beautiful picture when the puzzle is finished.
Thanks… and I do feel God’s love when reading your blog…
MaryAnne
MaryAnne–
Sometimes I still think I’m crazy, too, so don’t think you’re the only one! Glad you found this website — you are more than welcome here.
As far as the jigsaw puzzle, I think that’s a fantastic idea, and I think I’m going to try it myself! You’re right, sometimes we can’t put our lives together as we would like them to be, but we sure can put a puzzle together, can’t we?
Great idea! Thanks.
And thank you for the compliment about God’s love. That’s what I hope people feel when they read my blog.
Please do remember that God loves you and so do I, ok MaryAnne? Sometimes it’s what keeps us going when times are tough.
Michele