Comments on: Regarding Depression and Grief http://www.bipolarcentral.com/bipolarsurvivorblog/regarding-depression-and-grief/42/ Get an inside look at what its like to have bipolar disorder with Michele Soloway Sexton. Michele, a survivor herself, shares regularly on the ups and downs of dealing with the disorder, along with personal insights, lessons learned, and encouragement for others who also have bipolar disorder. Tue, 07 Feb 2012 15:09:06 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.1 By: Michele http://www.bipolarcentral.com/bipolarsurvivorblog/regarding-depression-and-grief/42/comment-page-1/#comment-180 Michele Sat, 14 Jan 2006 22:58:00 +0000 http://www.bipolarcentral.com/bipolarsurvivorblog/?p=42#comment-180 Stacey--<br/>Thank you for commenting. I can relate to so much of what you said, especially "Love the person for who they were and not how they hurt us." Only someone who has lost a close one to suicide can really understand that, so thank you. <br/><br/>I also really liked what you said at the end about how "BP is a disorder, not a way of life." I think I'll steal that quote from you and use it myself! :)<br/><br/>Anyway, good to hear from you, and hope you're doing well yourself.<br/><br/>Love you,<br/>Michele Stacey–
Thank you for commenting. I can relate to so much of what you said, especially “Love the person for who they were and not how they hurt us.” Only someone who has lost a close one to suicide can really understand that, so thank you.

I also really liked what you said at the end about how “BP is a disorder, not a way of life.” I think I’ll steal that quote from you and use it myself! :)

Anyway, good to hear from you, and hope you’re doing well yourself.

Love you,
Michele

]]> By: Stacey Adams http://www.bipolarcentral.com/bipolarsurvivorblog/regarding-depression-and-grief/42/comment-page-1/#comment-179 Stacey Adams Sat, 14 Jan 2006 22:31:00 +0000 http://www.bipolarcentral.com/bipolarsurvivorblog/?p=42#comment-179 Michele,<br/><br/>First I want to say that you are doing a great job of expressing your feelings of loss and Identifying the struggles of your pain. Loosing a loved one from such a tragic means is one of the hardest hurdels to overcome. By takling about found memories may bring you sadness, but can also bring comfort.<br/><br/>My husband was bipolar and took his own life when our son was three, at first I was in shock, devastated, angry, I had to start my life over. During the loss of my husband was during that same year I lost my grandfater to cancer. I know your grief.<br/><br/>My son is also bipolar and the struggles I went through to keep him alive and well were hard and we work our lives one moment at time, while trying not to focus on the negative. It has taken many years for my son to accept the fact that even though his father loved him, his father succomed to his disoder and like you said with proper meds and therapy you can lead a successful. We can't change the past only our future. <br/><br/>For myself I had to work hard past my grief, I found writing to be a great outlet for my thoughts and emotions as well as drawing. I have a few poems I dedicated to my departed husband and was able to move on. My son whom is in a treamemnt center too is working past his anger and is now realizing he can't change the fact his father is gone, but as a team we can change the way people look at bipolar disorder. It is a fight we all must overcome but can win if we contine to strive each knowing our lives can be productive as long as we accept what we can not change, but change our way of thinking and love the person for who they were, and not how they hurt us. I know you loved your sister uncondtionaly, she didnt have the tools to keep her going and you do. Keep expressing yourself and do the best you can each day, we are all human with our own little quirks, but with those quirks in the end we can make a difference.<br/><br/>Sorry for the long comment, just wanted to say that you bring alot of help to those who feel isolated and think the same thoughts, which bring comfort to those who need to know they are not alone. I am glad you are able to continue to bring wisdon and feeling to others lives who need to know it is okay to be human. Bipolar is a disorder not away of life and I am glad you are able to express that to other.<br/><br/>Take care and stay strong. Michele,

First I want to say that you are doing a great job of expressing your feelings of loss and Identifying the struggles of your pain. Loosing a loved one from such a tragic means is one of the hardest hurdels to overcome. By takling about found memories may bring you sadness, but can also bring comfort.

My husband was bipolar and took his own life when our son was three, at first I was in shock, devastated, angry, I had to start my life over. During the loss of my husband was during that same year I lost my grandfater to cancer. I know your grief.

My son is also bipolar and the struggles I went through to keep him alive and well were hard and we work our lives one moment at time, while trying not to focus on the negative. It has taken many years for my son to accept the fact that even though his father loved him, his father succomed to his disoder and like you said with proper meds and therapy you can lead a successful. We can’t change the past only our future.

For myself I had to work hard past my grief, I found writing to be a great outlet for my thoughts and emotions as well as drawing. I have a few poems I dedicated to my departed husband and was able to move on. My son whom is in a treamemnt center too is working past his anger and is now realizing he can’t change the fact his father is gone, but as a team we can change the way people look at bipolar disorder. It is a fight we all must overcome but can win if we contine to strive each knowing our lives can be productive as long as we accept what we can not change, but change our way of thinking and love the person for who they were, and not how they hurt us. I know you loved your sister uncondtionaly, she didnt have the tools to keep her going and you do. Keep expressing yourself and do the best you can each day, we are all human with our own little quirks, but with those quirks in the end we can make a difference.

Sorry for the long comment, just wanted to say that you bring alot of help to those who feel isolated and think the same thoughts, which bring comfort to those who need to know they are not alone. I am glad you are able to continue to bring wisdon and feeling to others lives who need to know it is okay to be human. Bipolar is a disorder not away of life and I am glad you are able to express that to other.

Take care and stay strong.

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