Comments on: Getting Along with Others When You Have Bipolar

By: suchi

suchi — Wed, 13 Apr 2011 19:12:36 +0000

I think mom has bipolar disorder. She lives in India alone. I live in US.
She has never cooperated to see the doc. She has no friends. who ever she tries to make friends she fights with them, hurts their feelings etc. She has also hurt my feelings on countless occasions. She goes crazy when she gets angry. She has stopped talking to me over the phone. I also invited her to US to spend time with us, She kept herself locked up in the room. She expected me to do impossible things for her. eg: Cook special meals 4 times a day. Even when I did she would criticize my cooking and throw away the food and go hungry.She made my life a hell in just 1 months stay.
After all these years I have become immune to her hurting my feelings.But now she has started bad mouthing about me to other relatives. This has been her latest maniac episode. I am so scared for her that if she has any other kinds of aggression and she might hurt herself, and no one will be there to help her.
ALso she has hyperkalamia High Pottasuim.

My question is how can I help her.

By: sherry f

sherry f — Sun, 06 Feb 2011 20:49:31 +0000

hi my name is sherry seems like most of the time i feel lk the family tends too injore m e or blow me off i so many ways no matter how nice i try too be even when im trying too talk & be nice lk i said the either over talk me or injore me i hv counlsed w/them & they tend 2 walk out after the third times a charm sesion been too bipolar support groups and all but like i said seems lk there the ones walking away from my mental illness why is i feel like they dnt try & i do

By: Michelle

Michelle — Tue, 27 Apr 2010 19:27:03 +0000

Hi Michele, thanks for sharing. During my manic episodes, I normally get easily irritable, and think that everyone is judging me. Thus, I normally try to do the opposite of what is expected of me, and inevitably hurt the people who try to help me out of the mistakes I make while I’m in my own manic world.

I’ve lost friends who do not understand the disorder over this. What makes it worse is that one of them is a psychology student and claims to understand the condition but is ignorant enough to think that my doctor is a quack and that I’m perfectly fine, and that I only use bipolar to get out of the mess I create. How do we educate such people? I get so paranoid about it that I resort to lying to the people I care about, and hiding from them whenever I get anxious/depressed. I think I’m hurting them by not being completely honest about me not being OK. The rest of the people who are left in my life assure me that this helps me sieve out people who do not deserve to be in my life. I’m still afraid that they will leave me someday…

By: Diana

Diana — Thu, 08 Apr 2010 21:17:51 +0000

People don’t understand me. They often avoid me. I tend to be very grandiose and hyper and often times things come out of my mouth without me thinking. I feel like everyone is against me or does not like me. I am estranged from my family. They don’t undersand or even try to be educated about bipolar. It is very disheartening. My husband is my loyal and the greatest person in my life. I have all but 1 friend. It is just too much sometimes.

By: Christina MacDonald

Christina MacDonald — Tue, 23 Mar 2010 14:47:53 +0000

I have to agree with you on your post about getting along with others when you have Bi-polar…it has been a cahllenge and a half through out my life…either people would like me, feel uncomfortable around me, or not sure how to take me, or understand me….I can be at times a very over whelming to people at times, I am very charaismic, hyper, out going, out spoken…it is a hard balnace to figure out the best of times.
I am not the kind of girl to “fit in” to most people, groups of friends…I am not a girlie girl kind of woman and a lot of women I meet see that and do not really include me in a lot of things..for an example…I am a Resident Care aide at a facility here in Prince George Canada…and the staff is almost all women…I am nt included in there “talking / hanging out” groups, I do not fit in with them, or I am not their group type, the nly way we have to communicate is because we have to work together…that has been my life…I have not ever had real friends that I fit in with…always on someone else’s coat tails in groups….
My spuuse and I have been together for a bit. Next doorwe have a pair of great friends, he met them first before I moved in…and then introduced me…well it feels to me, they are friends with us both, but mostly him…I think they are friends with me because I am with him, I have been around them alone, and it is not the same as when me and my other are together with them, they are not as talkative, open just with me, the wife and I have never done girlfriend things…it is only when me and my other half are together…..
So I really loved your post, hit the nail on the head with me, I agree..it has been my life and it seems it will be the remainder of my life, I just do not really fit in, and struggle with relationships with people…
My other half never really understands me either, we clash alot, and getting along with him at times is not the easiest….