Opening Post

Bipolar – When Things Don’t Go the Way You Want Them To

When you have bipolar disorder, things don’t always go the way you want them to. What do you do then? More importantly, what do you NOT do then?

Making the wrong decisions and doing the wrong things when things aren’t going the way you want them to can lead to consequences you may not want, or not want to deal with.

You may even end up in a bipolar episode if you don’t deal with these things in a right manner.

For example, if you don’t like the way things are going for you, you may spin your wheels and do all sorts of things trying to change an unchangeable situation, and all that expended energy may lead you into a manic episode.

Instead, you need to accept things the way they are. I know this isn’t an easy thing to do, because when we don’t like the way things are going, we naturally want to change them. It’s just human nature. But it’s not always possible.

When it’s not possible to change your circumstances, you have no choice but to accept those circumstances just the way they are, and not the way you want them to be.

In Dialectical Behavioral Therapy terms, it’s called “living in the moment,” or “mindfulness.” You learn to deal with things the way they are, because you can’t do anything to change them.

Sometimes all the frustration and anger in the world isn’t going to change your circumstances, and unless you channel those feelings into something positive, it can lead to a manic episode, and you don’t want that. You don’t want your feelings to get out of control.

The frustration comes from not having control over what’s happening to you. So you don’t want to compound the problem by losing control over your emotions as well. That’s the type of thing tht leads to episodes – when you are out of control.

The important thing is to remain in control of those things that you can, like your emotions and your choices because of them. You may not be able to help the way you feel – not liking what’s happening, for example – but you do have control over the choices you make because of it.

You can choose to rant and rave, and waste all kinds of energy, accomplishing nothing. Or you can choose to be positive, telling yourself things like, “This too shall pass,” and getting through the situation the best that you can.

Sometimes we all have to deal with negative circumstances. But we don’t have to let them dictate to us how we feel. We can control our attitudes and our approaches to things we don’t exactly like. We can stay in control if we allow ourselves, and still make good choices and decisions.

We can choose to stay in the moment, even if it is a negative one, and keep a positive attitude, opting to stay optimistic and wait for a positive outcome, no matter what the situation looks like right now. We have that choice, and we can maintain that control. In this way, we can avoid an episode.

By staying in the moment, choosing to stay positive, keeping an optimistic outlook, and staying in control, we don’t let our circumstances dictate to us how to think and act. And in this way we can avoid a bipolar episode.

You don’t have to like it when things aren’t going the way you want them to, but you do have to accept sometimes that there is nothing you can do to change them, either. At those times, concentrating on yourself and your own attitude is the best thing you can do.

Wishing you peace and stability,

Remember God loves you and so do I,



I am currently very depressed. I have been diagnosed w/bipolar 2 in the past and Major Depression also. NOt currently on any meds. Due to my soon-to-be e losing his job, i no longer have health insurance. And i am unemployed. what an eye opener. i had no idea just how ignorant i was about getting any help. I am looking into SSDI but don’t have enough work hours. i have not worked in years. All this plus over very big issues on my plate make recovery seem impossible. i am beyond overwhelmed. ty. i guess i just wanted to share as i just found out about this earlier todAy and just discovered your website.