Having a Spouse with Bipolar is Difficult
Having a spouse with bipolar is difficult at best sometimes. The disorder makes it hard to have a normal life, what with the daily ups and downs that bipolar mood swings bring with them. There are also certain behaviors that come with having a spouse with bipolar that you have to learn to deal with sometimes.
For example, you have to learn to deal with the anger of a spouse with bipolar, because when you live with them, you will be the object of their wrath. They can get angry over big things or even small things. They may even just be angry because they have bipolar disorder at all, as they have no control over it. They may get angry over things they can’t control – even you.
One problem with the anger of a spouse with bipolar is that they may fight with you even if you’re right and they’re wrong – they may just keep fighting anyway. Then you have no chance of winning, so you may as well not even try. The best thing you can do is to back away from the fight and just not engage in it at all. If you do, it will only make things worse for you.
Your spouse with bipolar’s anger may even turn to rage, and even violence, where they may throw things and break them. They may become verbally abusive toward you; however, if they become physically abusive, you may have to do something to ensure your own safety. Some supporters have even had to leave their spouse with bipolar due to this.
Another problem with having a spouse with bipolar is the behavior they may exhibit during a manic episode, such as excessive spending. Some people in an episode have even gone into bankruptcy because of their excessive spending or foolish business ventures. You can prevent this by keeping the credit cards from your spouse with bipolar and by taking away their ATM cards as well, and by limiting the amount of cash they have on hand to spend.
There are other impulsive behaviors that your spouse with bipolar may engage in while in a bipolar episode, such as risky driving. They may end up speeding and getting a ticket, or they may even be the cause of an accident, and get into trouble that way.
Your spouse with bipolar may get into other trouble with the law because of their behavior during a manic episode and the consequences from it. This may even affect you.
Another impulsive behavior in which your spouse with bipolar might engage during an episode might be risky sexual behavior. This might involve having an affair, or even bringing home a sexually transmitted disease to you. This could cause real problems between you and your spouse with bipolar.
An impulsive behavior that can cause real problems for your spouse with bipolar is substance abuse. They may start drinking or taking drugs during their episode, and then find it hard to stop doing it after the episode is over, thus finding themselves with both bipolar disorder and a substance abuse disorder, both of which will then need to be treated.
A very big problem that you might find with your spouse with bipolar is lying. You may even wonder if they are doing it on purpose, or just to hurt you. For example, they may say or do something in an episode and then have no memory of it later, while you remember it clearly. You may then think they are lying about it. In this case, they may not be lying, but simply have no memory of what happened during the episode.
In other cases, your spouse with bipolar may lie on purpose to get out of trouble, for example. They may have done something, and are afraid of getting caught, so they will lie about it.
Your spouse with bipolar can learn to curb their impulsive behaviors through treatment for their bipolar disorder – through medication and therapy, which will make it easier for you to cope and deal with them.
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