Many bipolar supporters have wondered about their loved one.  They have asked, "Is it the bipolar or my loved one?" If you have asked yourself that same question, you are not alone.  You may question your loved one's behavior, and wonder if their instability and impulsivity is just them, or is it the bipolar disorder in them?Risk-taking behavior, instability, impulsivity, improper sexual actions, foolish business investments, etc., can be normal behaviors when a person with bipolar disorder goes into a bipolar manic episode.  If your loved one is behaving like this, it may not be on purpose – they may actually be in an episode. Do you feel as if your loved one is lying to you?  There is a possibility that they are.  Consider this, however.  They may not be doing it on purpose – it could be their bipolar disorder.  Many people with the disorder will go into an episode, exhibit certain behaviors, and say or do things during that episode that they will later not recall.  You, however, will recall the entire incident.  You will remember everything your loved one said and did, so that when they deny it, you believe they are lying to you, and question, "Is this the bipolar or my loved one?"Do you believe your loved one is being sexually promiscuous on purpose?  Do you think they are driving recklessly just to scare you?  Are they making foolish business decisions because they are just after control?  Are they going on elaborate spending sprees just to drive you into bankruptcy?You need to ask yourself if these are normal behaviors for your loved one or not.Ask yourself:•    Is your loved one normally impulsive or are they more rational?  •    Are they normally extravagant with their spending or responsible with money?  •    Are they normally considerate toward you or do they act selfishly?•    Are they normally sexually promiscuous or are they more conservative?•    Do they normally drive carefully or recklessly?•    Do they normally make responsible business decisions?•    Do they normally lie to you?•    Are they normally a gambler or not?It is questions like these that will determine whether this behavior is the bipolar or your loved one.Here's the answer to your question and, if you think about it, you probably already know it:  if your loved one's behavior is normal behavior for them, then it is your loved one.  However, if it isn't, then it is the bipolar and not your loved one.