Some people downplay their loved one's depression (often unintentionally) by saying something trivial, thinking that will help their loved one, as if that is the one thing they needed to hear. While some of these thoughts have been helpful to some people, the majority of them are not, and can even make things worse.

Following is a list of the 50 worst things to say to your loved one when they are depressed:

1.  "What's your problem?"

3. "You just need to give yourself a good kick in the rear."

4. "It's all in your mind."

5. "I thought you were stronger than that."

6. "No one ever said life was fair."

7. "Pull yourself up by your bootstraps."

8. "Stop feeling sorry for yourself."

9. "There are a lot of people worse off than you."

10. "You have it so good, why aren't you happy?"

11. "It's a beautiful day!  Why can't you just enjoy it?"

12. "You have so many things to be thankful for, why are you depressed?"

13. "What do you have to be so depressed about?"

14. "You think you've got problems..."

15. "Maybe you should just take vitamins for your stress."

16. "You are what you think."

17. "Cheer up!"

18. "You're always feeling sorry for yourself."

19. "Why can't you just be normal?"

20. "Things aren't *that* bad, are they?"

21. "You just need to get out more."

22. "Why don't you just get a grip!"

23. "Most folks are about as happy as they make up their minds to be."

24. "Well, everyone gets depressed sometimes!"

25. "You don't look depressed!"

26. "You never think of anyone but yourself."

27. "You're just looking for attention."

28. "Everybody has a bad day now and then."

29. "Why don't you smile more?"

30. "The only one you're hurting is yourself."

31. "You can do anything you want if you just set your mind to it."

32. "You brought this on yourself"

33. "Get off your rear and do something." -or- "Just do it!"

34. "You have no reason to feel this way."

35. "It's your own fault."

36. "Your problems aren't that big."

37. "What are you worried about? You should be fine."

38. "Just don't think about it."

39. "You're making me depressed as well..."

40. "I just want to help you."

41. "The world out there is not that bad..."

42. "Just try a little harder!"

43. "Believe me, I know how you feel. I was depressed once for several days."

44. "You will be ok, just hang in there, it will pass." "This too shall pass."

45. "Try not being so depressed."

46. "Well, we all have our cross to bear."

47. "Nobody is responsible for your depression but you."

48. "You don't like feeling that way? So, change it."

49. "You could feel better if you tried harder."

50. "If you don't start showing some spirit, I'm just not going to be around you anymore."