If you are a supporter to a loved one with bipolar disorder, you are familiar with their bipolar behavior.  You may even feel as if they are lying to you.  The question is, how do you know?

 

One problem could be that your loved one denies having done or said something you know they did do or say.  So, are they lying about having done it?  Or do they just not remember doing it?

 

Many people with bipolar disorder go into episodes and, when the episode is over, have no recollection of anything they said or did during it – or, at best, they can remember only in "flashbacks."

 

In this case, your loved one is not lying to you – they simply have a memory loss associated with their bipolar episode.

 

Seldom will someone with bipolar disorder deliberately lie to others.  If they do, it is usually because they feel threatened, frightened, or defensive about their disorder, and may be trying to cover it in what appears to be a lie. 

 

A deliberate lie would be if your loved one says, "I don't have bipolar disorder."

 

In this case, they are definitely lying, because you know that they have the disorder.

 

They may also state something like, "My doctor said I can go off my medications."

 

Be wary if your loved one says something like that, as it is most likely not true.  Remember the old adage, "If something seems too good to be true, it probably is."

 

If you have any concerns about what your loved one tells you, and/or you believe they are lying to you (especially about medications or something that their doctor or therapist told them), check with the doctor or therapist yourself.