Bipolar relationships are difficult to maintain, but they can work, if you work at them. No different from a non-bipolar relationship, if you love each other, you will do whatever it takes to make the relationship work. And there are three things that every relationship takes to work: communication, trust, and honesty.
Mood swings are a major characteristic of Bipolar Disorder, and you will find that even with medication to control the moods, you will still struggle with low moods here and there, and find that these low moods will have an influence on your relationship, especially if your partner does not have Bipolar Disorder him/herself, which is usually the case. So you will need an extra amount of understanding and compassion to make your relationship work.
In addition to communication, trust, and honesty, bipolar relationships depend on two things:
Although the pressure upon a bipolar relationship is greater than on a non-bipolar relationship, the effect of mood swings on your relationship can be minimized if you keep the following things in mind:
- Keep your perspective.
- Don’t trust the emotions of the moment.
- Keep your awareness of the deceptive nature of low moods.
- Evaluate your thoughts against the reality of the situation.
- Make allowances for the fact that you’re in a negative frame of mind.
- Understand that your perspective is being influenced by your mood.
- Be careful not to make a permanent decision based on a temporary feeling.
- Allow for the illusion of moods.
- Respond to the moods instead of react to them.
- Don’t blow things out of proportion.
- Let things go and wait until you’re in a better mood.
- Help your partner understand your mood swings.
- Try to see things from your partner’s point of view.
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